I’m sorry is one of the first things we’re taught to say as children, yet some adults refuse to apologize even when they’re clearly in the wrong. The question is: Why?
Elton John wasn’t kidding: Sorry seems to be the hardest word. Some people find it so hard to apologize that getting them to admit to even the smallest wrongdoing involves a major battle—and often a fruitless one. Although we might perceive the reluctance of these non-apologists as simple defensiveness or pride, often a far deeper psychological dynamic is at play: Refusing to apologize often reflects efforts to protect a fragile sense of self.
Apologies can vary greatly in their significance. When non-apologists bump into someone in a crowd, they might mumble a quick “I’m sorry” without giving it another thought. But the same person arguing about with their spouse about directions might yell, “I’m telling you the GPS is wrong, take this left!” only to find out the satellite system was correct—and still adamantly refuse to apologize, perhaps calling on excuses such as, “You take the wrong exit all the time, too!” or “That GPS is wrong
February 14 has a way of reminding everyone without a date just how single they really are. (So much so that some have come to call it Singles Awareness Day.) But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. After all, singlehood can be a sign that you’ve made time for yourself, said no to people who weren’t right for you, or ended a relationship that wasn’t working…and that’s something to celebrate.
“The worst thing a single can do on Valentine’s Day is stay home, sitting on the couch in sweats with a pint of ice cream watching a Lifetime movie feeling sorry for yourself,” says Amber Soletti, cofounder of OnSpeedDating.com and SingleAndTheCity.com.
“Being single on Valentine’s Day is much better than being in a relationship,” she adds. “Being single, you have no expectations. Being in a relationship, you always have expectations, which are rarely ever lived up to.”
Here are some ways to remember that being alone on Valentine’s Day does not mean you’re missing out—and to make sure you don’t miss out on all the fun the
Is it just me, or has this been an incredibly long week? Now that Friday’s finally here, it’s time to celebrate. Those of you who are crazy in love probably have some sexy spring date planned with your S.O. But if you’re single, Friday night can be a bit more of a mystery. Try not to feel down about it! Being single can be incredible, so look at it as a few hours full of fun-having potential stretching before you, just waiting to be filled with something exciting. Then take these ideas for a spin.
- Go on a YouTube makeup tutorial spree. Tonight, you’ll finally learn how to contour like a Kardashian. Or like a twice-removed Kardashian cousin who isn’t quite so heavy on the bronzer. Or perhaps you’re more into exquisite braid tutorials inspired by Game of Thrones. Whatever your deal is, tonight you can experiment so you have a new look for your next big date or night out on the town.
- Indulge in a binge-watching session. Lately I’ve been catching up on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and Homeland. They both got popular years ago, but I’ve only now
Families are a source of emotional support, love, security and protection, reports Healthy Children. Healthy family relationships result in happy and secure children and give parents the ultimate reward of being important in the life of a child. Healthy families benefit each family member in important ways and help provide a unique sense of belonging and value that cannot be found in other relationships. The benefits of healthy families are far-reaching and all encompassing.
The love and support of family members motivates many people to continually strive to be better people. The development of strong moral character is one important benefit of a healthy family because it builds a bond between family members that is centered on a similar belief system. Healthy Children reports that families provide guidance to children regarding values, discipline and the internal code of conduct that motivates human behavior. A similar belief system can also encourage each family member to pursue his own interests while adhering to a strong set of personal beliefs and expectations, says Healthy Children. When each family member feels supported and valued it builds a healthy bond that encourages the formation of strong moral character.
Healthy family relationships
Do a Google search on how to get your best body and you’ll be inundated with pages of training tips. For those who want to take that same, proactive approach to creating your best relationship, I have your “exercise regimen” below.
- Do the things you did the first year you were dating.
As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.
- Ask for what you want.
Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.
- Become an expert on your partner.
Unless you’re shipwrecked on a deserted island, you probably enjoy a handful of close relationships. From spouses to children to friends, parents, siblings and significant others, healthy relationships build self-esteem, improve mental and emotional health and help you live a fuller life.
“Relationships are — not surprisingly — enormously important for health, and there are lots of studies on the biological processes that account for the link between relationships and health,” says psychology professor Arthur Aron, PhD, director of the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at New York’s Stony Brook University.
The quality of our personal relationships also has an enormous impact on our physical health, as evidenced by a hefty number of research studies.
“We support each other in getting enough exercise, eating right, flossing — all the things that make for better health can be supported or undermined by close relationships,” Aron says.
In the movie “Cast Away,” Tom Hanks’ character — stranded on an uninhabited island — creates a face on a volleyball and talks to the ball, which he names “Wilson,” as if it were a person. Though fictional and funny, the gesture illustrates something very basic about us: Relationships are important — so important, in fact, that our brains are hardwired
Parent-Child Communication Basics: An Education Program to Enhance Parent-Child Communication
There are many ways to define a family, but they all have one common idea: caring. Whether a particular family is a nuclear family, a stepfamily, a single-parent family, or an empty-nest family, it usually consists of related people who care about each other. Regardless of type, all families also need to be nurtured and strengthened from time to time. This publication will offer some suggestions for improving and strengthening relationships in your family.
What Makes a Family Strong and Successful?
There are at least five “L’s” which contribute to strong family relationships.
Learning—Families are where we learn values, skills, and behavior. Strong families manage and control their learning experiences. They establish a pattern of home life. They select appropriate television programs. They guide their children into the world outside the home. They do not let social forces rule their family life. They involve themselves in neighborhood, school, government, church, and business in ways that support their family values. Strong families teach by example and learn through experience as they explain and execute their values.
Loyalty—Strong families have a sense of loyalty and devotion toward family members. The family sticks together. They stand by each
In past articles I have described the problems our younger workers are having with interpersonal relations/comunications. Many find it easier to plug into an iPod as opposed to working with others. This is resulting in a socially dysfunctional workplace where people work at odds with each other. To overcome this problem, I offer the following suggestions for improving a person’s social interaction. There is nothing magical here, just ten commonsense tips to help you develop better relationships with your coworkers, your vendors, and your customers.
1. GREET SOMEONE
Nobody wants to feel unwelcome or unappreciated. If they do, they will feel like outcasts and less likely to help you with something. The objective is to make people feel at home. This can be accomplished with a simple greeting or a firm handshake while looking at the person directly in the eyes.
It is easy to detect when a greeting is sincere or routine. Your goal is to appear genuinely concerned about the person. This can be achieved by:
- Complimenting on some personal attribute of the person (e.g., clothes, hair, car),
- Inquiring about a person’s family (e.g., birthday observed, anniversary, graduation, pets, health, etc.),
- Asking about an event the person recently experienced (e.g., attendance at an event,
Almost everyone, it appears, has relationship advice to provide. Pick up a publication within the food market and it’s likely that, dating advice is actually the actual subject matter of one involving the actual cover reports. Each lady is familiar with at least one blog offering love advice to females struggling inside a existing relationship. Deep down, it seems apparent that people would like the identical factors: love, endorsement, stability, as well as a relationship that persists. However too many that might seem to start out nicely finish badly. Exactly what is the hidden secret to a relationship of which manages not to endure, yet to support and nurture both men and women there long term? This can be the type of relationship advice of which men and women really need.
Clever folks go into associations with the realization that they aren’t simple on a regular basis. Of course, neither is anything else that’s advantageous, like developing a residence, being successful in the profession, or raising a kid. Successes of value will almost always be worthy of an investment associated with time and work that they need so that they are done properly and succeed. Relationships that work well
We hit a certain point in life, usually by 28 or 29, where we look around and realize, if we’re single, we’re the only ones left. Hanging in the closet is the proof—a handful of bridesmaid’s dresses we’ll never wear again. And if we’ve tossed those to the nearest Goodwill, we need only to log on to Facebook to be smacked in the face with the evidence that we’re alone, alone. While we’re super happy for the friends who’re in committed relationships, who’ve tied the knot and begun to pop out babies, it can feel a little alienating too. So here’s what to do.
Make new friends. You shouldn’t chuck the old for a brand-spanking-new lineup of single gal pals, but it is really important to surround ourselves with people who get where we are in life, right now. No one wants to be the constant third wheel, nor can we always be surrounded by couples and kids when our lives, right now, orbit a different universe. And while your married-with-kids friends may be game to play wingwoman at the bar, their bedtime could creep up quicker than yours when they get a text that Johnny has a fever—or they might
From the outside, we may look the same as our single comrades (with no children,) but the insides of our lives, minds and hearts are vastly different.
Single moms don’t have the same free will as other single women.
We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.
We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children. We are responsible for their well-being and daily survival. Hidden under the layers of responsibility lie our own needs, which resurface as we disengage from our identity as a married woman.
Since my separation three and half years ago, I’ve noticed a growing number of my contemporaries (in their early to mid-30s) join the force of divorcees.
Recently, several of my freshly divorced friends have confided in me about their struggles. They share the same feelings (as I did and do) of excitement, trepidation, anxiety, confusion and fear over their newborn single status.
I’ve made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks. I still don’t understand the game of love, but I do understand my needs as a woman and mother.
Somewhere during my teenage existence, I decided 23 was the perfect age to get married. I’m Mormon, which means people tend to marry young and start families sooner than the rest of society. I never wanted to be one of those girls waiting around to get married, but finding a mate has always been an important part of my life plan. I assumed by the time I graduated from college I would find a great guy to marry and we’d start our lives together. It was happening all around me, so why shouldn’t it happen for me, too?
I’ve dated but nothing has ever blossomed into a full-blown, real relationship. I came close once, but the timing, among other things, was never right. I recently found out that this ex “almost” boyfriend of mine has happily settled down with someone. I’d always held out hope that we’d eventually end up together, but now I know that’s never going to happen. Lately, despite my typical reliance on hope to get me through, I’ve been unable to shake the nagging fear that I might end up alone.
As I settle into adulthood and inch closer to the big 3-0, my friends continue to pair
Everyone knows being single on Valentine’s Day can come with a range of emotions. Some years when you’re single, you might even forget about Valentine’s Day because your heart is like Teflon and you’re thrilled to be on your own. Others, not so much. Since February 14th is just a few short days away, now’s the time to form a single-woman plan of action if you don’t have one already. Even if you see it as a normal day, you should still plan on doing something fun—like one of the activities below.
- Pamper like you’ve never pampered before. Hit up a really indulgent beauty store and grab body scrubs (or DIY ’em), face masks, and even stop by the supermarket to buy some cucumbers for your eyes. Light delicious-smelling candles and slip into a robe. Basically, go the whole nine yards and spend the day indulging. You’ll feel really relaxed, and as a bonus, really gorgeous too.
- Galentine’s Day, anyone? Meeting up with single girlfriends or ones who can’t spend the holiday with their guys for whatever reason is an easy way to combat the Valentine’s Day blues. Whether you stay in or go out, you’ll be with women who get you,
If you’re currently looking for love and not including single dads in your search, you’re doing it wrong.
You’re not likely to stumble upon a more selfless or loving guy than one who has raised his kiddos on his own (or mostly on his own).
But hey, don’t take it from us, take it from the guys themselves. We recently asked a handful of single dads to give us their best elevator pitch for dating one of their brethren. See what they had to say below.
- He’s going to take things slow.
You know that guy you got coffee with once who subsequently badgered you with requests to hang out for weeks on end? Most single dads are not that guy. Single dads don’t have time to be that guy.
“Single dads have a lot on their plate,” says writer Serge Bielanko. “They’re most likely not sitting around in their boxers, flicking through strangers’ faces on Tinder like some kind of bored sack of boiling testosterone, you know? In fact, if they’re doing it right (and many are), there’s no question in this world about who the most important person or persons in the galaxy are. It’s their kids.”
That means you may
- e. It is not possible to be “neutral” and wait for someone, somehow, like in the movies, to meet and fall in love on a street corner. Like any other human endeavor, meeting and marrying becomes much more likely if someone is pro-active—if that person plainly wants to meet someone and is willing to work at it. The feeling of “That’s just not me” evaporates, like any other old habit of mind. Doing something that is anxiety-provoking for any reason loses its ability to intimidate over time.
- Most people regard marriage as liberating, although they may not stop to think of it in just that way. Once someone is married, he/she is free to be with an interesting person practically all the time. They are able to speak and laugh together at all hours. They can have sex without making elaborate preparations. They are free to manage in a world that is largely designed for couples, rather than for single people. They have more economic opportunities because their joint income is more than that of either of them alone. And, above all, they are free to have children. Marriage is in a real way liberating.
But not everyone sees it that way.
The only thing standing in your way towards happiness is you; no one else is allowed to set up limits for you but you, nor there should be. No matter what kind of problems you’re dealing with, how old you are or where you live, you deserve to be happy – it’s as simple as that. It’s time to face the fact that you’re in control of your future, and finally do something about it!
1. Give up excuses
The easiest way to avoid something is to make up an excuse for it, and we all do it occasionally, like there’s not enough time during our busy day to join the gym, or it’s too late now to start learning a new language because we’re too old. I know there’s that silent voice in your head that says these things aren’t true, but you always find a way to ignore it somehow, don’t you? However, if you decide to work on your happiness, it’s time to stop being lazy! It’s never too late and you’re never too old to start something new and exciting.
2. Give up unresolved relationships
Every person in the world has their past, and that’s something you can’t change. But,
Feeling a little down in the dumps ’cause it’s a Saturday night and it seems the whole world is paired off except you? Well, snap out of it. With a new attitude and a plan in place, you’ll soon be feeling so fine and full of yourself you’ll realize that a man is just the icing on the cake.
Make the most of your career or find a new one. If the career track you are presently following leaves you a little less than thrilled, change it. If the position for senior copy writer suddenly becomes available, go for it. If your dream is to be a writer, don’t dream, write. The idea not to wait for the sudden appearance of “Mr. Wonderful” to make you happy or give you confidence. True self confidence comes from personal achievement, and in today’s competitive world, personal achievement is often defined by having a successful career. So if your 9 to 5 job is is starting to feel like 9 to infinity, then it’s time to kick that job to the curb and find a new one.
Take the time to decorate your living space the way you always wanted. Make the space
Being single at any age can be challenging in a world that seems to put so much importance on finding the love of your life and becoming a couple. The whole world seems to be geared up to support you in this quest. There is very little support given to those who are consciously choosing to be spend time alone, learning to enjoy their own company and the creativity it sparks. There is almost a sense of failure or that there is something wrong with un partnered people which is really quite ridiculous, especially since more and more people are realizing that the partnerships they formed early in life, have failed to pass the tests of time and they themselves are now living the single life. So you are single for whatever reason -here are ten tips for making the most of being single…
Number 1 most important thing to do is relax. Your singledom will not last a lifetime. Well it will if it is meant to but this is a very rare karma. The worst thing you can do is panic and think you have to find someone immediately or your life is over. This air of desperation is
Are you truly happy? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured. The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life.
- Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.
- Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue
Times have never been better for single women. Long gone are the days when we needed a man to pay the bills and protect us, and our social status was dependent on our spouse. Despite the recent return of Bridget Jones, there are single people of all ages out there going about their business and enjoying themselves, and the word spinster has pretty much been outlawed. And yet, says Zoe Strimpel, who is organising a discussion on the topic at this year’s Cambridge Festival of Ideas, being unattached and over 30 remains a source of anxiety for many. Concerns range from mass hysteria over biological clocks through to fear of coping alone in old age, via unhelpful stereotypes of cat ladies and cougars. “Sometimes it’s hard to know how to be a neutral single woman,” says Strimpel. Joining her in discussion will be relationship counsellor Susan Quilliam, psychologist Cecilia d’Felice and authority on sexual matters, Rowan Pelling. Here is a preview of key tips from the event, entitled How to be a Single Woman in 2013, Whether You’re 25 or 60, along with some thoughts from happily single women.
Don’t feel obliged to regale your coupled-up friends with wild tales